There are many questions that can be generated when trying to control our thoughts the way we want.
To achieve adjusting our thoughts, we must begin by the way we feel, in other words we have to control our feelings and emotions.
We must recognize that there are lots of people and companies with great interest in making you believe that external factors need to make you feel a certain way. The marketers spend billions of dollars each year to persuade you to buy their products to be happy, cool, trendy, popular, confident, successful … etc
Who do you think is the winner if you adopt that mentality?
When you understand that deep down, you have the ability to consciously direct your thoughts in order to create the feelings you want for your life. You’ll not enrich others wanting to feel good. If you can realize that you don’t need anything external to control and master your emotions, then you’ll have more self-control and thus a mastery over your emotional states.
And yeah! This skill will take some time to develop, but it’s one that can become a habit.
Imagine what you can do if at any moment you choose you could feel 100% confident!
For example, when speaking to many people in conference, or an examination or interview.
Cultivating the habit of triggering emotions from time to time can help us definitely to dominate our emotions and be ready at all times to handle situations.
An interesting question that can give us clarity on control of emotions is the following:
How would feel and react a person with complete mastery of his emotions, if wearing casual in a formal event?
The answer is very interesting: the person would hardly notice that is dressing different from others. He wouldn’t mind external factors. His emotions would be controlled simply because these lie in his mind.
The problem is not that the world controls your emotions: The problem is that you think it does.
Detaching yourself from this belief and understanding that you have the power to control how you feel at all times, no matter the circumstance, is the first step to mastering your emotions.
Events are neutral. What makes you feel in some way or another, is how you perceive these events, what you think of them, as you interpret them.
Once you grasp this, you can start taking the control. For example, faced with a disease, many people will feel terrible and it could cause depression on them, others however, will see the fact of leaving the disease as an obstacle and will commit to overcome it, and others may see it as an alert to reevaluate priorities in life and the best use we make of our time.
Feeling a certain way about any event in life is a conscious choice. If something bad happens, and you feel depressed, you can choose to change that feeling (interpretation of the event) and be grateful for the opportunity to know your weaknesses and take it as another excuse to improve.
You may have broken up with your girlfriend and feel suicidal emotions, or accept that it’s a step to grow as a person and achieve better things in life, taking advantage of what is around you, looking for new opportunities … etc.
As you may overcome it, it’s possible that your suicidal feelings lead you to death. It depends on you.
When you can get to the point in which you feel that external factors have nothing to do with the way you feel, you are finally free. This is a state of not being tied to any external element, with which you can discern consciously and take control of your thoughts and feelings without something or someone else.
Mastering your emotions is as simple as it may sound.
Do you dare to try it?